The chill in the air has arrived, are you welcoming this change for extra layers and comfort or are you resisting to let go of the Summer warmth? Or maybe floating somewhere in between. However you are experiencing this transition that is perfectly okay. Your experience is valid and important.
How we meet change is different for us all, with many elements influencing how we are feeling. There is no right or wrong way to meet change, we do the best we can at given time.
Often in this midst, we can compare ourselves to others, perhaps sounding like ‘he seems to be handling this a lot better than me’ … ‘why can’t I be more like her’. Comparing is a coping mechanism that many of us pick up on along our journey from a very young age. ‘Should’ and ‘must’ are words that are all too familiar in the comparison thinking. If this sounds familiar to you, please don’t judge yourself – you are a human who has been conditioned to think like this.
When comparing yourself be curious about how you speak to yourself… the words and the tone in which you speak to yourself. What choices do you make? How would you describe your behaviours?
This process allows us to change the narrative of comparing thoughts, feelings and behaviours. And just as we may have learned this over a lifetime it can take time to unlearn, and learn a new way of treating ourselves with compassion. Have patience with yourself.
However you are meeting this new month, go at your own pace.
love and light friends,
the dancing soul
I believe that everyone has a natural instinct and drive to heal both mentally and physically. We are all flawed to perfection which creates individuality and character. All too often perceived failures and imperfections can create inner conflict, low self-confidence and low self-esteem which can alter our perception of our environment, our true selves and our full potential.
Through counselling, each client is presented with a safe space where they are listened to, supported and challenged in a non-judgemental, empathic and gentle way so that they can experience the freedom of being their true selves. Uncontrollable sobbing, uncontrollable laughter (occasionally both at the same time) and everything in between can be experienced in a counselling session, as all authentic feelings and emotions are welcomed and valued.
As each client starts to shed their limiting beliefs, unhelpful thoughts and behaviours that have developed over time, they start to realise their full potential and feel what it’s like to be comfortable in their own perfectly imperfect skin. As a counsellor, it is so rewarding to witness this growth and be introduced to an authentic and unique individual that is ready and able to achieve what’s important to them.
This book addresses the fact that the search for happiness is flawed! Happiness is unique to each individual, it is ever-changing and conditional.
By searching for happiness, I am actually just reminding myself that I am not happy now! After all, why would I search for happiness if I am already happy?
I can tell myself that I am fine, but that doesn’t change how I actually feel, and how I actually feel directly impacts how I perceive the world around me, which affects how I think and behave.
So why endure this darkness while trying and persuade myself and others that everything is OK?
By considering the knowledge, skills and possible supports highlighted in this book, you will see that you no longer need to avoid, suppress or endure any part of your true self.
All aspects of your natural self are valuable, and by learning to realise your full potential, you can utilise all of the resources that are at your disposal, and become better able to face any challenge and life experience that comes your way.
Let Finding Happiness In The Dark help you emerge from the darkness, so happiness has nowhere to hide!
Podcasts with our therapists.
Olivia joined James from The Hut Near The Bog podcast to discuss Irish Attitudes Towards Mental Health.
Listen here >
Joanne and Teresa joined Derek from The Weekly Wheatley to compete in a quiz about music, films & fantasy dinner.
Listen Here >
Journal Prompts – Being ‘Good Enough’
- What does being ‘good enough’ mean for you?
- Do you compare yourself to others as a guideline for what is good enough for you?
- Where might you have received messages about what it means to be ‘good enough’?
- How might you create space in the ‘good enough’ that allows the full and messiness of what it means to be human?
…live in the question.